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Michele & Carey

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October 27, 2006

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way.” - Pablo Neruda

About us

Michele and I met in May of 2004 online, at PlanetOut.com. Michele had just moved to Arizona from Los Angeles 3 weeks prior to our meeting, and had gotten out of a 7 year relationship only a few months prior to that. I had been living in Arizona since 1997 and had been single for about 2 years prior to meeting Michele.

Both of us had been actively meeting people online for a few months. In fact, just before we met, I had been corresponding online with 4 different women named Michele! What are the odds?

I emailed Michele because I was impressed with how down-to-earth and sincere her profile seemed. I thought it was hilarious when I learned that I had met yet another Michele and thought to myself: "this has got to be the one!"

I emailed Michele because I was impressed with how down-to-earth and sincere her profile seemed. I thought it was hilarious when I learned that I had met yet another Michele and thought to myself: "this has got to be the one!"

Michele called that night and we met in person at Starbucks a few hours after our first chat. For me, the attraction was instant and the first thing that went through my mind was: "I am going to marry this woman!"

For Michele, the process was a little slower (due to the previous long term relationship having just recently ended) but she soon learned you can't fight destiny and she came around within about a month!

In February of 2005, Michele was on business in San Francisco and I flew in to meet her for the weekend. Unbeknownst to me, Michele had already called my parents to let them know she would be proposing (news which made my parents ecstatic!).

Michele's plan was to propose to me in the Japanese Gardens, but she was too excited and ended up proposing to me in our hotel room a few hours after I arrived!

We told Michele's parents over dinner shortly after we returned from San Franciso and they were very gracious and happy for us. They will be hosting an "after wedding" dinner in our honor for our out of town friends and family the night after wedding. We are very lucky to have such a large group of family and friends who are supportive of our relationship and our marriage.

We moved in together in June of 2005, purchased a home together in December of that year, and set a wedding date shortly thereafter. Our wedding date is October 27, 2006, and we are planning a big Hawaiian luau wedding.

Fast Facts

First met: On PlanetOut.com, 5/16/2004
First date: Starbucks
Got engaged: in San Francisco around Valentines Day 2005
Cermony location: The Satisfied Frog, Cave Creek, AZ
Favorite planning resource: GayWeddings.com
Honeymoon destination: Hawaiian islands (7 day cruise)

In Case You Were Wondering

We're calling our celebration: O'hana & Aloha (Family and Love)
Our wedding colors: Tropical/Hawaiian colors
We will be wearing: Ivory dresses
Who proposed to whom: Michele proposed to Carey
Our last names will be: Flamer-Powell
We are registered at the following locations: Crate and Barrel, TheHoneymoon.com

Looking Back on the Big Day

Favorite wedding moment: Watching our family and friends have such a fun time at our Hawaiian themed reception
First Dance song: No traditional first dance, we had a Polynesian dance troupe
Most moving gesture/gift offered by a friend or family member: Michele's dad and step-mother threw a big party at their home the evening after our wedding for all of our out of town family and friends.
Vendors we recommend to other couples: Bluewick Candles, The Satisfied Frog

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